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It appears that my best hasn't been good enough to raise my son successfully. I never thought that I would be in this position, but life has gave me challenges to overcome which I have conquered, only to leave me here with nothing left to get by on. I guess now would be the time to tell you our story. A little over a year ago, I was still in a relationship with my sons mother, although she was a horrible woman I wanted to keep my family together even at the cost of my sons well being, until one day I couldn't take the insanity any more, she was arrested on a domestic violence charge to make a long story short, that night I called my mother and told her I was coming home to St.Louis with my son and I left early in the morning on a greyhound heading home. If only I knew then how it would all play out I would of done things different and had the courts give me permission to go, but I didn't. I was only home for a few months before the courts ordered me back to Colorado, they granted me primary custody of my son, but his mother was granted daily visitation while the judge reviewed the case further. My mother new my intentions were pure and while I was there she had taking out a loan for 5,000.00 so I could acquire a vehicle, and get an attorney to help me, even though she struggles with her bills alone, but by time the order was made in Colorado for my sons return, the attorney had used up the retainer, and I had 300.00 in my pocket to return to Colorado and provide for my son. I did as the courts asked and allowed my ex to have visitation with my son. Not long after I started noticing that my sons pupils were larger than normal and that he was shaking in his sleep, I was extremely worried about my son, and his safety, so I asked for help from the local Department of Human Services. At the time I had not acquired enough money to be stable myself, but my sons health and well being came before anything in my eyes. After the Department of Human Services gave my ex. a visit they determined that she was abusing a drug known as crystal methamphetamine, they explained to me that a dependency and neglect action would be opened, and that they would be asking to acquire custody of my son until I provided a stable environment for both of us. I weighed my options and decided that it was in the best interest of my son to hand over custody rite then and there until I did just that. The day after I gave them custody we had a court date to open the dependency and neglect action in front of the judge, nothing went the way I thought it would, the courts ended up giving both of us treatment plans. Due to my ex's positive u.a. for methamphetamine my treatment plan included 2 random u.a's and 1 random b.a. a week which cost 50/week, and the department of human services hast to act on any accusation, understandably in the child's best interest, so I had to also have a therapist throughout everything at the cost of 150/week, I had to attend parenting classes at 50/a class, I had to have a drug and alcohol dependency evaluation that cost 550/ they determined that I didn't need drug and alcohol therapy, and that my visits were to be supervised till the next court date at a place designated for just that which coast 50/a visit twice a week and I would haft to present a clean quick test before they would let the visit happen. The case worker explained that both parents haft to do the same thing when a dependency and neglect action is filed. I was devastated that things went the way they did, but there was no time to feel sorry for myself, I started doing everything that I had to do to get my son back, and to prepare to give him a wonderful life. One after another I was checking task of my list, I was one step closer, every day I woke up with somewhere to go, with something to do, in time my visits went from supervised to unsupervised, the orders for drug test were dropped, and now a motion for return of custody to me. I left Colorado to protect my son, Colorado asked me to come back only to put him back in harms way, I asked for help, instead they took my reason to live from me, and gave me two choices; make it, or don't. I made it, but this battle to be a father for my son has coast me every dollar I made. Between the classes, the therapy, the drug test, and the gas to accomplish these goals there is no foundation left to stand on. My mother knows of this and she is willing to help the best she can but I need more for my son, I love him dearly and he deserves a wonderful life with me. Any little thing would help, I'm not saying that we can't get by without this, I'm just saying that life could be a little easier with a little help from anyone that is reading this, so please every penny counts, and if you are unable to help at least pray for us, I know god loves us, but some times a it takes more than just my family's priers. Thank you for taking the time to read this, and have a wonderful day.
My Purpose
I am on here to see if anyone could help me crate a better foundation for my son. My purpose is to provide more, I have no debts, I am payed up, I just don't make enough to get ahead. Please help if you can. I don't have the extra money to fund my paypal account to send them .01 cents, so if there isn't a donation button here go to http://my-donation.com/node/1833 or email me at randy_fox83@yahoo.com, so i can request .01 cents from you so i can verify my account here.
randy_fox83´s Request
Improve qualtiy of life
Single Parent
Expense
Description: It appears that my best hasn't been good enough to raise my son successfully. I never thought that I would be in this position, but life has gave me challenges to overcome which I have conquered, only to leave me here with nothing left to get by on. I guess now would be the time to tell you our story. A little over a year ago, I was still in a relationship with my sons mother, although she was a horrible woman I wanted to keep my family together even at the cost of my sons well being, until one day I couldn't take the insanity any more, she was arrested on a domestic violence charge to make a long story short, that night I called my mother and told her I was coming home to St.Louis with my son and I left early in the morning on a greyhound heading home. If only I knew then how it would all play out I would of done things different and had the courts give me permission to go, but I didn't. I was only home for a few months before the courts ordered me back to Colorado, they granted me primary custody of my son, but his mother was granted daily visitation while the judge reviewed the case further. My mother new my intentions were pure and while I was there she had taking out a loan for 5,000.00 so I could acquire a vehicle, and get an attorney to help me, even though she struggles with her bills alone, but by time the order was made in Colorado for my sons return, the attorney had used up the retainer, and I had 300.00 in my pocket to return to Colorado and provide for my son. I did as the courts asked and allowed my ex to have visitation with my son. Not long after I started noticing that my sons pupils were larger than normal and that he was shaking in his sleep, I was extremely worried about my son, and his safety, so I asked for help from the local Department of Human Services. At the time I had not acquired enough money to be stable myself, but my sons health and well being came before anything in my eyes. After the Department of Human Services gave my ex. a visit they determined that she was abusing a drug known as crystal methamphetamine, they explained to me that a dependency and neglect action would be opened, and that they would be asking to acquire custody of my son until I provided a stable environment for both of us. I weighed my options and decided that it was in the best interest of my son to hand over custody rite then and there until I did just that. The day after I gave them custody we had a court date to open the dependency and neglect action in front of the judge, nothing went the way I thought it would, the courts ended up giving both of us treatment plans The case worker explained that both parents haft to do the same thing when a dependency and neglect action is filed. I was devastated that things went the way they did, but there was no time to feel sorry for myself, I started doing everything that I had to do to get my son back, and to prepare to give him a wonderful life. One after another I was checking task of my list, I was one step closer, every day I woke up with somewhere to go, with something to do, in time my visits went from supervised to unsupervised, the orders for drug test were dropped, and now a motion for return of custody to me. I left Colorado to protect my son, Colorado asked me to come back only to put him back in harms way, I asked for help, instead they took my reason to live from me, and gave me two choices; make it, or don't. I made it, but this battle to be a father for my son has coast me every dollar I made. Between the classes, the therapy, the drug test, and the gas to accomplish these goals there is no foundation left to stand on. My mother knows of this and she is willing to help the best she can but I need more for my son, I love him dearly and he deserves a wonderful life with me. Any little thing would help, I'm not saying that we can't get by without this, I'm just saying that life could be a little easier with a little help from anyone that is reading this, so please every penny counts, and if you are unable to help at least pray for us, I know god loves us, but some times a it takes more than just my family's priers. Now that this chapter of our life's is coming to an end I am going to post our ups and downs as we work for a better life. if you would like detailed descriptions of my exspences please email me.
My progress: rite now I'm at the end of my quest, I did everything possible to achieve out here, now it's time to move forward and create a new life.. For those who are quick to respond with get a job, I have one, I drive a taxi for 12hrs. a day 5 days a week rite now.. I'm going to walmaret to use the scanner to coppy files of the case as it progressed in my favor. I will post them soon enough.
This is a short term need assistance request for a family of 1 adults & 1 children
My message: Thank you from my family to yours, !
Supporting Documentation: randy_fox83 has the following documentation
Recipient Q&A
•Do you qualify for any additional help?:
my son qualifies for Medicaid, when I get to st.louis.
•What local/other agencies have you contacted?:
the local 211...Department of human Services, Social Services
•Did you get denial letters? (if so are they attached to your request?):
in the beginning they denied my request for assistance, so in return I was unable to get that much needed boost. I will post those as soon as i get them, the reason being is because I was still considered married to my ex and I needed her signature also in order to get assistance, and lord knows I never would of got it.
•What other sources of income do you or your family receive?:
My income is solely from my taxi job.
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