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StasiaJ26

I made it this far. I want to go so much farther.

Name:

Stasia

My Birthday:

May 25

Occupation:

Mom

My URL: http://www.microgiving.com/profile/4everhisgirl

Offline | Member Since: 04/30/08 | Login Count: 187 | Profile Views: 2518 | Last Login: 03/11/10

Biography

Growing up on welfare I only pictured my self being one thing when I grew up-Rich. I didn't want to be married, I didn't want children, and most of all I didn't want to be poor. When I was 14 I got pregnant when my boyfriend refused to hear the word no. At 15 I had a baby girl who was the first change in my plans. I discovered even that young that there is nothing worth more than being a parent.

I graduated high school early with the support of my parents and soon after gave birth to my second daughter two and a half weeks early. Nineteen months later I had another girl born 5 1/2 premature. She sailed through and has no lasting effects.

On August 31, 1999 I found out I was 2 weeks pregnant. The next day, September 1st, I was in a car accident, broad-sided by a semi. My whole concern was that baby I had just found out I was having less than 24 hours ago. I didn't care about the van I was driving or the driver that had hit me but that unborn baby. My doctor took me off work and I was on bed rest for the remainder of my pregnancy with him.

On March first, 2000 my son was born 15 1/2 weeks early. When I first saw him fighting for his life in the NICU I realized how fragile life can be and how cruel nature sometimes is. I wanted this baby so bad and I could lose him at any moment. When he was 2 days old he was diagnosed with something called periventricular leukomalacia. I still don't know what that is. He spent 3 months fighting for his life before being able to function without the machines.

I went and saw him everyday even getting a job to be able to afford the 45 minute one way trip. I was dividing my time between work, home, and my son. That was the most exhausting time of my life averaging 3 hours of sleep each night.

My son pulled through and came home bringing with him a breathing monitor as he would stop breathing. According to the nurses this was occasional but I quickly discovered that it happened several times a day. The monitor was gone by 7 months and at this time we had long fallen into a routine. When he came home I left my job and took a late maternity leave. By the time I had him settled in we were noticing that he was more than delayed due to prematurity as the doctors told us to expect. He was holding his limbs funny, kinda curled up some. His pediatrician said that we were just worried and to give him more time. His first birthday came and he was still like a newborn. Unable to hold his head up, couldn't sit or roll. Finally his doctor became concerned and sent him for testing.

My son was sent to a specialist who had several appoints with him but being that he still didn't move really she couldn't do anything more than brain ultrasounds but the results pointed to many disorders. Finally at about a year and 3/4 he started to hold his head up and begin to roll around and combat crawl. Exactly after his 2nd birthday I was told he had cerebral palsy.

His specialist was startled to find that I was happy about that diagnosis. But I know several people with cerebral palsy and I know that if therapy is started young they can have a great independent life. So CP is better than some of the other disabilities he could have. So we got my son right in to a rehab clinic and I was taught several different things to do with him daily as he was only seen once a week. He was also given DAFO leg braces to help keep his leg muscles from getting tight. Now he is 8 and can do most things other kids his age can, just a little slower.

He isn't my only child needing specialized care. My 2nd has asthma, diagnosed at 4 and now is fighting the beginning stages of kidney failure at 11. My oldest is dyslexic. Somewhere along the lines I couldn't tell you when, my husband and I decided that I should be at home with the kids. So we accepted the financial struggle. It hasn't been easy on us but I think that I made the right decision as they do truly need a parent at home. I truly appreciate my husband for working as hard as he does to support us. I have tried to go back to work but every time I do something catastrophic happens that prevents it. Now I work from home choosing my own hours. It's convenient but being that the kids have my schedule full I don't have much time for work. But for what we don't have we always have each other.

My Purpose

My husband works and for the most part I am a work at home mom of 4.

We run into hard times and help and support are both needed. When we can I give to charities and help family and friends, even if it's one dollar at a time.

My Interests

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Getting To Know Me
My Family Mother :Faith Father: Ken Brother(s): Paul, Josh, Tommy Sister(s): Paula (deceased Other important people in my life. Name :Mikey Relationship: Best Friend Name : Dauna Relationship: Another Best Friend Recent changes in my life : Update April 2009 I start college in May to become a veterinarian. I have received a pell grant and plan to use all available sources to help me with the cost of scool. July 2008 We recently found a house in a great area for purchase on a land contract. Moving in my husband broke his ankle and was out of work for 3 weeks. Being the only mechanic in a business that rents construction equipment his boss isn't thrilled about his absence. When he returns to work his boss has a major attitude and gives him a hard time. Then on his 3rd day back to work his boss makes him so miserable that he quits and has a new job by the end of the day. Favorite board game Clue What is most important thing in your life? Unconditional love Pick five words that describe yourself : Enigma, honest, surprising, skeptical, energetic Can you juggle ? Yes What is your favorite day? Last day of School What is your favorite season? Fall What is your favorite meal? Vegetarian Lasagna What time do you wake up in the morning? About 6 If you could have one super power, what would it be? To grant other's wishes Comedy or Horror? Horror If you could build a house anywhere, where would it be? Alaska What is your greatest ambition? To become an animal doctor Who is the person from you past you wish you could go back and talk to? My mom What characteristics do you think you've inherited from your parents? None What do you never leave home without? My glucose meter Who would you most like to meet? Garth Brooks If you had a million dollars, what would you do with it? Live modestly and help others who truly deserve it. What is the most embarrassing thing youve ever done? My brother had me on the floor tickling me. I peed my pants just as my boyfriend walked in. I forgave my brother. Eventually. Hobbies and Talents : I sing very well and play the flute and piano. I was in student government, once holding 2 positions in the same year. I was in the yearbook club, S.E.E.D. Club, Pep club, Peer support groups. Now I love to do yarn work, make soap and candles, spend time at the school helping in my kids classes, and being a total embarrassment to my 14 year old daughter LOL. List achievements and any future educational plans : I want to become a nurse working with the preemies. I had 3 of them the last one being 15 1/2 weeks premature. When the nurse was trying to help me through the shock she told me she knew how I felt. I bit her head off asking her if she had a preemie herself. She said no and I told her that she couldn't possibly know how I felt. I think it would help parents if the person caring for their child went through it as well.

Journal

I'm back and I missed you all.

Posted on Thu 16 Apr, 06:23 pm

I'm back and I missed you all.Seems like I've been gone for forever and I have missed so many people from here. A lot has happened in the past few months I don't even know where to start. I lost my phone in January and just got it back today (so happy). For the most part things were kinda quiet. 2 of my kids represented their class in the spelling bee, I have a new nephew, and I start college in May. March and April were sad months for us, a friends daughter lost her 2 week old daughter in March and on April 1st my family lost both a cat (to age) and a dog (to cancer). I'm starting classes at my local college to transfer to 2 more colleges before I'm through. My plan is to be a veterinarian catering to the low-income. Adrienne's kidney issue seems to have finally been pinned down and steps are being taken to correct it, but the doctor told me it would more or less prolong more invasive treatments. Austin has learned to do the splits, those of you who know his condition will know what t >>>

Requests History

My license plate on my car is about to expire.

Disabled

May 1, 2008

My license plate on my car is about to expire.

Description: On May 25th my registration on my vehicle will expire. This will cost me 97 to renew them. I also need insurance which I don't currently have due to financial issues. I was given a quote of 109 to start which will cover my truck for 60 days. I cannot afford it right now nor can I afford to be out of a vehicle. My daughter is scheduled to have surgery with an unknown date in June. This will correct a health condition before we lose that option. This will happen after my tags expire.

Category: Human Services, Financial Assistance

Why? The potential long term impact..

I use my truck to take my kids to and from school and doctors appointments. With one of my children disabled and another having a chronic health condition I find myself at the doctors often. This will allow me to continue to care for my family.

Progress:

$ (0%)

Still needed: $206

Supporting Documentation:

Request was active: 456 days

Request created: May 1st, 2008 | Request views: N/A | Request modified 1 time(s) | Last modified: May 1st, 2008

We are moving and our new house lacks a fridge.

Disabled

June 17, 2008

We are moving and our new house lacks a fridge.

Description: I struck on a rare find. I actually found a house on land contract with nothing down. The house needs some cosmetic repairs but the structure is in great shape. Our monthly expenses in this house will be $135 less than our current rental home. Unfortunately it does not come with a refrigerator as I was told. I have shopped around and the lowest priced ones range from 350-400 for a basic no frills fridge/freezer combo which is truly all I need. I have looked into used appliances in my area and the ones I have found need serious repair or are so aged that I am unsure of how long they would last. Not having a warranty concerns me as well. I would greatly appreciate any help anyone can give with this. Thank you.

Category: Human Services, Family Support

Why? The potential long term impact..

To be able to keep perishable food in the house for the family.

Progress:

$ (0%)

Still needed: $350

Supporting Documentation:

Request was active: 456 days

Request created: June 17th, 2008 | Request views: N/A | Request modified 1 time(s) | Last modified: June 17th, 2008

Basic Needs

Disabled

July 3, 2008

Improve quality of life

Basic Needs

Other

Description: I just bought my first home on a land contract. It is a fixer upper in the country. There is a major plumbing repair many minor repairs needed in this home including the drinking water. We have well water. Even with the water softener is has a foul sulfur odor and is quite orange. I will not allow my family do ingest it until I am able to have it tested for safety at the health department. For the time being I am buying water or bringing it over from friends and family when I visit which isn't often. I would like to be ab;e to purchase an on-tap water filtration system like Brita or similar for my family along with a filter pack. I have check Wal-Mart and Wal-Greens and it looks as if I will need to spend about $30 for this item. Also I would like to be able to start with Angel Food Ministries. If I am able to purchase a food package each month it would definitely stretch my grocery money. Unfortunately I am unable to pay for it at the end of the month and wait until the end to receive it. If I can purchase a package without hurting the grocery budget I would not have the difficulty with waiting until the end of the month for future packages.

My progress: When we were negotiating the contract I was assured that the house would be clean and all the previous resident's possessions would be removed. Unfortunately they weren't. I have spent our first days here cleaning and sanitizing my home to make it a safe livable place for my children. The kitchen cupboards were littered with mouse urine and droppings. My husband has spent his time assessing the needed repairs to the home. The plumbing appears to need the most immediate attention as we have several drains that leak. We have been dividing our time between cleaning, repairs, and unpacking while trying not to over-do it.

This is a short term need assistance request for a family of 2 adults & 4 children

My message:I am looking to find ways to keep my family healthy and stretch every dollar possible.

Supporting Documentation: StasiaJ26 has the following documentation

Do you qualify for any additional help?: I am in the re-application process for food stamps.

What local/other agencies have you contacted?: The health department to find out how to have my water tested and to see if there is a reduced rate for low income families.

Did you get denial letters? (if so are they attached to your request?): No, I have received no response yet.

What other sources of income do you or your family receive?: My husband works, I have a small income about 50/week and my son receives disability.

Progress:

$ (83%)

Still needed: $10


Request was active: 456 days

Request created: Jul 3rd, 2008 \| Request views: N/A \| Request modified 1 time(s) \| Last modified: Jul 3rd, 2008

Basic Needs

Rejected

September 25, 2008

Improve quality of life

Basic Needs

Other

Description: Our water well needs some work. We had a company out to look at it this week expecting to have to drill a whole new well at $3400 average. Fortunately we need a new well pump. Unfortunately our pump is stuck and will need acid poured on it to get it out. We were quoted $300 for the pump, $60 for the acid and $40/hour for labor at an average of 4 hours including wait time on the acid. This also includes a warranty on the pump. We do currently have running water but without this new pump we won't for long. Since we moved into this house in July our water pressure has been running slower and slower. We are now at the point that we cannot run water in more than 1 location at a time. This makes my day less productive as I cannot do things like laundry and dishes in the same time. Bath also take longer than necessary due to the time it takes to fill the bathtub. We have an average pressure of 20-25 psi and it should be closer to 50 psi.

My progress: We have been saving as we could just for such a thing. Right now we have $73 and will continue to keep adding to this as we can.

This is a one time only expense assistance request for a family of 2 adults & 4 children

My message:This request is an item my family desperately needs. Beyond my MG request I will or already am trying a few different avenues to fund this while we do still have water. Each place or site I use will be updated as any help is received. We are also looking at the different companies in our area to find a lower price quote, so far with no luck.

Supporting Documentation: StasiaJ26 has the following documentation

Do you qualify for any additional help?: No

What local/other agencies have you contacted?: My case worker, 211, house insurance company. We have also asked family.

Did you get denial letters? (if so are they attached to your request?): No.

What other sources of income do you or your family receive?: Husband is employed, son receives ssi, food stamps.

Progress:

$ (0%)

Still needed: $447


Request was active: 456 days

Request created: Sep 25th, 2008 \| Request views: N/A \| Request modified 2 time(s) \| Last modified: Sep 25th, 2008

Basic Needs

Disabled

January 1, 2009

Improve quality of life

Basic Needs

Description: We bought our house in June. On November 18th, I remember because it was my daughter's birthday, our well went out. Since it wasn't hit by lightening our homeowners insurance won't cover it. My husband was given 3 used deep well pumps and he by-passed our pump and was able to use one to get us water. This is only a temporary solution. We have a shallow well and the deep pump cannot handle the dirt and sediment that is drug up through the mechanisms. We have already gone through one of those pumps. This water is good for cleaning and bathing but not for drinking. As I already mentioned we get a fairly large amount of sediment and have had to remove the screens from our faucets as they plug quickly. I have to buy drinking and cooking water.

My progress: We have been able to save some for the new pump. Between that and money we were given to help out by our families we have almost $200. I am still scouring my area for help agencies that can assist us. I also have a new case worker who may be able to help. I will update as needed.

This is a one time only expense assistance request for a family of 2 adults & 4 children

My message:We are a hard working family who needs a hand up at times.

Supporting Documentation: StasiaJ26 has the following documentation

Do you qualify for any additional help?: There is no help available that I have found for the well.

What local/other agencies have you contacted?: DHS, CAA, & Salvation Army.

Did you get denial letters? (if so are they attached to your request?): Not yet...

What other sources of income do you or your family receive?: SSI and my husband works. I sell homemade soaps and candles earning a minimal amount.

Progress:

$ (0%)

Still needed: $2000


Request was active: 456 days

Request created: Jan 1st, 2009 \| Request views: N/A \| Request modified 1 time(s) \| Last modified: Jan 1st, 2009

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My Comments

Brooks Lamkin saving Florida camp

May 13, 2009 02:14:19

I came to your profile because you left a comment on how to get Brooks
in the pool. I hope you get help here. It really sad what happen to
you. I can't beleave your insurance didn't pay for lighting hitting
your house. Insurance companies are such ripe offs. The Lion's Camp
went through for hurricanes in 2004. The insurance money never came
through. They hired a lawyer, but I guess you can't get blood out of a
stone. Something like that. It is a pleasure to meet you. Brook's has
CP also. He doesn't really have any strengh. He is going to Shiner's
Hospital on June 8th to try to get him up in a walker. they said,
" It's going to take a lot of work, but it can be done." I'm
not putting a lot into it because I don't want to get dissappointed.
Take Care

Michie	Apr 25, 2009 14:46:37
Hi Stasia, just wanted to drop by and wish you an awesome weekend. Hope everything is going well. :)

Michie	Apr 23, 2009 17:27:15
Hi stasia how are you. long time no see. Hope you are doing well. Look forward to seeing you in the forums. Michie

Sherri

Apr 19, 2009 01:24:46

Stasia!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Where are you????  I got your beautiful card, and was so happy to hear
from you!.... The envie got thrown out before I had your return
address!

Write anytime! I've missed you and hope to see you again soon!

Patty	Dec 16, 2008 16:54:21
hugs to you to

Jenn	Dec 16, 2008 16:54:21
Hello Stasia! Hope everything is good with you today! Hugs and blessings to you my dear friend!

Paige	Dec 16, 2008 16:54:21
Hello!

Sherri	Dec 16, 2008 16:54:21
Hey There!! I hope you have a wonderful week!

Dev-dev	Dec 16, 2008 16:54:21
Just dropping by to say hello! :) -devon

Paige	Dec 16, 2008 16:54:21
I hope you have a great week!

Ashelady	Dec 16, 2008 16:54:21
Wanted to wish you a Happy Thanksgiving.

Jenn	Dec 16, 2008 16:54:21
Happy Thanksgiving Stasia! I hope you have a wonderfully blessed day today! Thank you for being my friend!

Paige	Dec 16, 2008 16:54:21
Hello to you as well!

Paige	Dec 16, 2008 16:54:21
Thanks a lot! I was really hoping that it would help me out :)

Sherri	Oct 26, 2008 03:04:00
Just bringing some more hugs and postive thoughts for you!

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