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Member Since: 02/01/08 | Login Count: 2567 | Profile Views: 2905 | Last Login: 07/01/09
Biography
I became disabled at a young age, suffered domestic abuse, escaped, married and settled into an upper middle class life. We both gave with a kind heart...looking back though, probably not as much as we could have. We lived rather selfishly then. My husband made a mistake that sent him to prison leaving behind a disabled mother of two disabled sons. I felt the loss of my husband and I had to handle two little boys whose daddy was in prison 1000 miles away. I had to sell everything we owned just to pay rent and take care of my kids. I had forgotten what it was like to live poor. I grew up poor, and had been poor until I met this man...but going from riches to rags was one of the hardest things to adapt to. I never realized we had money...till it was gone.
I self pitied for a while till one Thanksgiving I had nothing to offer my kids. I had $10 to my name and that wasn't going to buy a turkey. I got a letter in the mail asking me to donate to the local soup kitchen. It was for the homeless to enjoy a Thanksgiving dinner. I showed it to my neighbors, they had all thrown theirs away. They were planning their big day with all the traditional foods. I would be going to my mothers house for a modest dinner with our small family.
I called the place that sent out the letter and they welcomed me to visit. I visited and realized that though my roof leaked, most of my windows were broken, I had very little food, my water heater didn't work, and I was driving a 20 year old car that wouldn't start in the rain...I was the lucky one. I recalled the time in grade school I gave away my shoes to someone that needed a pair. I got in trouble for doing that...my mom worked hard to buy me those shoes, but it felt to see that kid smile and wear those shoes every day. It didn't matter what I had suffered for my act, it was worth it to have brought a little something into someone life which made their life a little better.
I gave the last of my money to that soup kitchen. They gave me the first name of the person who would sit at the table and said my name would be on a card at their place setting...so on the card I wrote..From A Friend.
I'm still on disability and still don't have much to give but I know that to someone a small hand up can make a difference and every time I think of what I need, I think first of what I can give.
My Purpose
To help those with fully completed bio's with attached journal, photos and documents.
I want to hear what you are doing to improve your life and pull yourself out of the cycle of need so I will be looking for you in the MicroGiving forum.
I am swayed by a healthy positive and creative attitude and I lean towards those who help others even though they too are in need.
Compliment: Rayhawk has been a so wonderful to me. She has explained the site, listened, cared and tells it like it is not just what you want to hear. She has helped me promote where ever she can. I knew her from another site but not well we spoke in passing and were friendly but since coming here I have found a true frined in her. Thank you so much. Michie
Favorite Quote
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Education
Highest Education completed: Didnt complete High School
Languages
Languages: American English Only
Getting To Know Me
If you had to have one, and only one bumper sticker, what would it say? : Is there someone you can help today?
What objects would you be nervous if you didn't have a spare for?: Tire
What was the last thing you shouted while alone in a car? : Profanity at the driver in front of me for drifting into the other lane
How many greetings cards/Thank you cards have you sent in the last 12 months? : Do E-cards count?
Which font do you use most often?: Comic Sans
If you could ban one figure of speech, one acronym and one word, what would they be? : Tough one, I would ban racial and homophobic slurs
How would you answer a 5 year-old who asked why is the sky is blue? : There are only 8 crayons in th box and all the other colors were used up
On a scale of 1 to 10, how confident are you that you know when to use a semicolon?: -1
What do you do when you’re bored?: Annoy people who are busy
What book are you reading now?: The Plains of Passage by Jean Auel
What songs, television shows, books, paintings etc are you embarrassed to admit that you like? : Rodney Carrington Comedy and music, The Wariors Childrens series books, and Queer as Folk reruns
Do you type with your fingers on the right keys? : Yes
Favorite joke? : I really don't have a favorite
What’s on your mouse pad?: My mouse
What is most important in life?: Earth, Air, Fire, Water & Spirit
Thunderstorms – cool or scary? : Cool
Who are your favorite heroes of fiction?: Captain Planet
Your favorite virtue?: Charity
What do you most value in your friends?: Kindness and Helpfulness towards people, animals and planet
Personal motto:: Keep trying, if at first you don't succeed, try and try again.
If you could meet anyone (Dead or Alive) who would it be and why? : I'll get back to you on that one, my list keeps changing
Do you promise to do your best to undertake a Random Act of Kindness towards a complete stranger each and every Friday? : Why only on Friday?
Will you Spread The Word, to support out efforts in creating a philanthropic explosion of charitable giving & freely sharing around the world? : Absolutely!
How did you hear about MicroGiving?: A friend from GreedyorNeedy.com
Do you have anything to declare?: I didn't do it!
Photos Of Rayhawk
(Photos: 18 | Views: 15 | Last upload: December 8th, 2008 )
Amy and Becky at Sis's house 2007
Becky and Ginger at the 2008 Crippled Critter Benefit
Me and Amy at my sisters house, I just got my new wheelchair
Becky and Gunshot kitty Sidney getting ready for the Crippled Critter Benefit Ride.
The Rayhawk Family. Xmas 2007 at my Sis's house
On my brand new scooter at my most favorite place. The turtle pond at Hopeland Gardens Aiken SC
My youngest son. Xmas 2006, Friends house
Microgiving made a difference in my life
Promoting MG of course!
Amy & Becky out to dinner thanks to a MG member
My oldest son
Getting ready to go to a downed rider benefit
Me and Amy at my sisters house in Columbia SC
My favorite place at Hopeland Gardens. The turtle pond
Motorcycle Awareness Day '08 Waiting for the guys to open the TeeShirt booth
I have been to lots of places on the web and this place just felt like home the first time I visited. I came here as a recipient and within a very short amount of time I was able to purchase the mobility scooter I needed.
Now I am here as a doner and hopefully I will be able to pay it forward a little at a time. I expect to be on Microgiving for a very long time. There is a really good feeling that flows from this site. >>>